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How Did You Learn To Value Yourself?


Many people who struggle with love addiction struggle with the concept of valuing themselves. They have learned to value themselves through the opinion of others and  have a tendency to put others above themselves. They do not know what it means to value themselves or truly love themselves, so they learn to accept things from others that they do not deserve. Unfortunately for the love addict, they enter into relationships that are toxic and chose intimate partners who strive off of their helplessness. I was sharing a recent incident with a friend and they pointed something out to me. They stated “ you always put someone else’s needs above your own, why is that?”. That was the first time that it hit me at full speed. I’ve always put others needs above my own, but I never really thought about it, it was just natural for me to do so. I said to myself” I really do that don’t I?”. my response was that I didn’t know why. It made me think of others who do the same thing in their relationships with others. As I had mentioned before, people who have an addiction to love, also struggle with codependency, establishing healthy boundaries with others and putting themselves first. My question to you, is where did you learn how to value your self or who taught you how to value yourself?

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