Love Junkie

I do believe that sometimes people trigger old behaviors that we are trying to change about ourselves. Sometimes you may find yourself working towards recovery by changing old patterns, beliefs and behaviors; however, unfortunately someone new comes into your life and you find yourself repeating these same old behaviors that you have been working hard to change. Thats is the powerful effect of this addiction, if you are not aware of your triggers or high risk situations, you find yourself falling back into the unhealthy lifestyle and becoming readjusted to the chaos again. Sarah’s problem stemmed from abandonment and dysfunctional family relationships. She was uncomfortable being alone or loving herself and she sought validation through other men. Her past history included entertaining multiple men at once so that their would never be a gap in between someone providing this validation that she needed. It is funny, because she used to say to herself and joke with her friends th

When The Love Addict experiences Withdrawal Symptoms............... A few weeks ago I discussed relationships in my group therapy session. A lot of my clients shared how they struggled with toxic relationships in their active addiction and how they were unable to stop despite the consequences. That is the thing about process addictions such as love addiction. Despite the consequences, despite the emotional and physical pain, the inability to stop seems impossible. No matter how hard she tries to distant herself by blocking his phone number or deleting him off social media, she somehow finds herself reaching out to him, her point of contact, which is what we call this in recovery. Just like the individual who experiences withdrawal symptoms when they stop using a chemical, is the same thing that the individual who struggles with love addiction experiences. People who have an addiction to love or women who love too much experience similar withdrawal sym

                                            How Did You Learn To Love That Toxic Man?  I was having a conversation with a good friend of mine and we got on the topic of relationships. He was sharing with me a past previous experience, where he has dated a woman who was very insecure and every time he would give her a compliment, she would reject it. He stated that this was a major turn off for him and stated “ I thought to myself, did she feel like she did not deserve this and what does that say about her”. This literally hit me like a train. This was me……. I was literally the girl that never felt that she deserved good things and would accept the minimum because that is what i thought i deserved.  It got me thinking about dysfunctional relationships and how women who come from a broken home may have the same mind set. Imagine growing up in a household where your father was absent. You were raised solely by your mother who worked just to provide your basic needs.