How Did You Learn To Value Yourself?
Many people who struggle with love addiction struggle with
the concept of valuing themselves. They have learned to value themselves
through the opinion of others and have a
tendency to put others above themselves. They do not know what it means to
value themselves or truly love themselves, so they learn to accept things from others
that they do not deserve. Unfortunately for the love addict, they enter into
relationships that are toxic and chose intimate partners who strive off of
their helplessness. I was sharing a recent incident with a friend and they
pointed something out to me. They stated “ you always put someone else’s needs
above your own, why is that?”. That was the first time that it hit me at full
speed. I’ve always put others needs above my own, but I never really thought
about it, it was just natural for me to do so. I said to myself” I really do
that don’t I?”. my response was that I didn’t know why. It made me think of
others who do the same thing in their relationships with others. As I had
mentioned before, people who have an addiction to love, also struggle with codependency,
establishing healthy boundaries with others and putting themselves first. My
question to you, is where did you learn how to value your self or who taught
you how to value yourself?
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